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#147 I Didn't Want My Trauma to Define Me ... But it did

She held his hand while he died.

Genea was four years old. He was a Vietnam vet. A junkie. And the only person around who made her feel loved.

Her mom was emotionally unavailable, physically abusive, and gaslighting her constantly. So this man up the street became her best friend. He gave her what her mom couldn't. Belonging. Encouragement. Safety.

And then he overdosed. And she watched him die.

That was just the beginning. Trauma stacked on trauma until Genea's entire nervous system was wired for one thing: survival.

She never wanted her trauma to define her. But it did. It defined every job she took. Every relationship she stayed in. Every dollar she made. She couldn't make more money than her mom. She couldn't step into what she wanted. She couldn't hold joy when she found it.

In this raw solo episode, Genea opens up about:

🔹 Why she used her trauma story to push people away (and how that kept her trapped in freeze)
🔹 The moment she realized every decision she'd ever made was about staying safe, not living free
🔹 What happened when she spent years in therapy, plant medicine, NLP, hypnosis, and still felt stuck
🔹 How she finally broke the pattern and stepped into relationships, money, and work that actually feel good

If you've been running from your past while it quietly runs your life, this episode will meet you there.

Listen now and stop letting survival mode make your decisions.

 

Connect with Genea

Weekly Clarity Call - Wednesdays 7a PST/10a EST - Join the call here:  https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/Mr9xoteOSj-pYabKDTNBRA 

Inquire about Events, Firewalking, Coaching, being a guest on Be the Wolf LIVE or Be the Wolf Podcast https://bethewolfnow.com/connect/ 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

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About Genea

Genea Barnes is a mentor, coach, and speaker whose early life was rooted in deep trauma and neglect. To stay safe, she learned to make everyone else feel good and put their needs first.

It worked to survive, but it came with a cost. She lost her ability to discern what was truly right for her. And getting what she wanted came with the anxiety that it would be lost or taken away. 

She was great at making other people’s dreams come true, but when it came to what she truly wanted, she self-sabotaged and procrastinated … always putting something else first. 

She spent decades exploring and studying every modality under the sun to break free from those patterns and create a life that felt like joy, ease, and freedom. 

Today, she empowers people to move away from and resolve conflict rooted in trauma, generational trauma, and sacrifice of self … so they can create the life they crave and access greater peace and freedom in all areas of their life. 

This gives them access to loving, authentic relationships, consistent healthy habits, and success in business, finance, and career that feels like fulfilment and freedom. 

She believes that when you operate from the TRUTH of who you are, humanity evolves. 

#146 An Honest Evolution: Merging Spirit and Success With Jen Mitchell Love

The system was designed to create destruction, and she was part of it.

For nine years, Jen Mitchell Love worked as a litigation attorney. She watched families get torn apart in courtrooms. She saw kids become collateral damage. She felt the heaviness of a broken system that treated people's real lives like billable hours. And she knew something had to change.

This conversation captures Jen in the middle of her most honest evolution yet. She's merging the spiritual practice she kept private for years with her legal work. She's speaking the truth about what divorce actually is: a sacred transition that can heal generational patterns instead of destroying families.

Jen gets raw about:

🔹 Why she became a lawyer to get around the rules (and ended up trapped by them)
🔹 The moment she gave a client lavender essential oil and thought, "What am I doing?"
🔹 Why she attracted a narcissistic relationship right after her divorce (and what it taught her)
🔹 The divine message she received on October 12th that changed everything about her work

This is for anyone who's built something impressive but hollow and stressful. Anyone who knows they're meant for something different but hasn't fully claimed it yet.

Watch to see what real evolution looks like when you're still in it.

 

Connect with Genea: 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Jen:

Website https://solacedivorce.com 

Appointment Link: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20935226 

Instagram handle: https://www.instagram.com/solacejenmitchell/ 

 

Jen’s Bio:

Jen Mitchell Love is a family law attorney, mediator, and holistic coach who founded Solace Divorce Mediation to change the way people experience divorce. After years in the courtroom, she created a heart-centered, spiritually grounded approach that honors the soul contract of marriage while guiding couples through the legal process with mindfulness, intention, and love. 

Through Solace, her “Divorce with Love” Master Class, Solace University, and her book “Shine, Soul, SHINE!” Jen helps people release what no longer serves them, protect their children, and step into a new chapter as empowered co-creators of their Dream Life.

#145 The Real Reason Your "No" Gets Ignored and (What To Do About It)

Your no doesn't land because there’s something deeper at play.

Genea spent years behind a bar, unable to say no to doing shots with customers. Come on, just one drink. Just one more. She'd start every shift saying she wasn't drinking, and end it five shots deep. Not because she wanted to drink. Because her no was laced with guilt, fear, uncertainty.

Fear that they'd be upset. Guilt that their experience wouldn't be good. All stemming from being a child who made her mom's (and everyone else’s) feelings her responsibility.

This episode breaks down why saying no feels impossible and what's actually happening underneath. Genea shares stories that cracked the pattern open. The structures she built just to protect herself from having to choose. The anxiety that came up when she finally started putting her experience first.

She reveals:

🔹 Why taking a month off drinking was the only time people respected her no (and what that taught her about clean boundaries)

🔹 The workaholic structure that let her say no, but also kept her from saying yes to things she actually wanted

🔹 How putting other people's experience first since age two created nos that never stuck

🔹 The joy practice that trains you to choose yourself even when you're running late If you struggle to say no without an excuse, this episode will show you what's actually in the way. Listen to learn how to say no cleanly, without fear, and have it actually stick.

Connect with Genea:

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

About Genea Genea Barnes is a mentor, coach, and speaker whose early life was rooted in deep trauma, abuse, and neglect. To stay safe, she learned to ‘prove’ her worth and take responsibility for others’ needs and feelings.

It worked to survive, but it came with a cost. She lost her ability to discern what was truly right for her. And getting what she wanted came with anxiety that punishment would follow, or be taken away. This led to self-sabotage and limits on how much peace, love, joy, and freedom she was able to feel and maintain in her life.

She spent decades exploring every modality under the sun to create a life that felt like ease and freedom, and finally achieved it.

Today, she empowers people to move away from and resolve conflict rooted in trauma, generational trauma, and loss of self … so they can access greater peace and freedom in all areas of their life (in way less time than it took her).

This gives them access to success that feels like fulfillment and freedom in business, finance, and career, loving, authentic relationships, and healthy habits that feel like a ‘want to’.

She believes that when you operate from the TRUTH of who you are, humanity evolves.

#144 Unlearning the Good Girl Script and Choosing Yourself With Ashley Jordan

She had everything she was told would make her happy. So why did it feel like a cage?

Ashley Jordan built a life that looked perfect on paper. The dream house. The marriage. The career as an activist. A life that looked enviable from the outside. The result … feeling absolutely caged on the inside.

She walked away from it all. The marriage to a good man. The activist career. The friendships that couldn't handle her evolution. And she rebuilt everything from the inside out based on who she actually is, not who she was told to be.

This isn't a story about dramatic betrayal or abuse. It's about the quiet 

suffocation of living a life that isn't yours. The terror of leaving safety for the unknown. The death of your ego when you stop performing goodness and start embodying truth.

This conversation captures the messy, beautiful journey of unbecoming. Of stripping away every mask to find the truest self underneath. Of walking away from a good man and a good career because good wasn't enough. Of losing friendships that couldn't survive her transformation. Of discovering that grief is actually love calling you home.

 

Ashley shares the raw truth about:

🔹 The moment she had to leave the activist group she founded because she no longer fit her own mission

 🔹 Why 24 years of repressed grief cracked her open when her childhood sweetheart died

 🔹 How closing her heart at 13 to avoid pain kept her caged for decades

 🔹 The loneliness of not fitting anywhere while you're becoming who you really are

 

If you've ever felt like your life looks good on paper but still doesn’t “feel right,” this episode will shake something loose.

Listen to understand what’s possible when you choose yourself.

 

Connect with Genea: 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Ashley: 

Website: ashjordan.com

Instagram: @msashjordan

Promotional Link: unhappy achiever.com

 

Ashley's Bio:

Ashley Jordan is the author of Unhappy Achiever: Rejecting the Good Girl Image and Reclaiming the Joy of

Inner Fulfillment. She writes and speaks for women who are done with the masks, the striving, and the

silence—and who are ready to reclaim their voices and rebuild their lives with truth, freedom, and love.

#143 What if You Don't Really Care About Others (you might not like this one)

You might not like this one.

If you're someone who does a lot for other people, buckle in. Because Genea is about to challenge the story you've been telling yourself about why you give so much.

 

You think it's because you care. And yes, you do care. But the capital T truth? There's something deeper. Something you're avoiding by making everyone else feel better.

 

Genea shares her own pattern of over-giving. 

 

Hours researching to help an ex-boyfriend’s health issues. Lying awake trying to solve clients' problems. Never taking time off because she "cared" so much about the company. 

 

But all of it (yes all of it) was running from unresolved pain inside herself.

 

Here's what this episode reveals:

🔹 The invisible conflict that drives people-pleasing and over-giving
🔹 Why you can stand up for others but not yourself
🔹 How childhood wounds show up as adult caretaking patterns
🔹 The freedom that comes from resolving what you're really running from

 

Warning: This episode asks you to look at uncomfortable truths. But on the other side is peace. 

 

Connect with Genea: 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#142 When You Stop Hiding: Identity, Image, and TRUTH with Celeste Moore

What if the image you're projecting is “perfect,” but the identity underneath is even better?

Celeste Moore teaches people how to align their external presentation with their authentic self. 

But she only learned how to do this after decades of performing identities that weren't hers. 

From childhood trauma to toxic relationships to living a double life, Celeste survived by becoming whoever she thought she needed to be.

This episode is about the journey from performance to presence:

🔹 How sexual trauma at four years old created a lifelong pattern of pleasing and performing
🔹 The breaking point that forced her to choose between survival mode and self-love
🔹 Why softening into the feminine felt like weakness until she understood its strength
🔹 The difference between projecting an image and embodying your truth

Listen if you're ready to stop hiding behind the version of you that you created to stay safe and be accepted.

 

Connect with Genea: 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Celeste:

YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@CelesteMooreImage

Appointment Link:  https://celestemooreimage.hbportal.co/public/67d0b12f7010

Instagram handle:  https://www.instagram.com/celestemooreimage/ 

 

Celeste’s Bio

For a long time, I thought power came from looking the part.

So I styled myself to be accepted to earn money, to gain respect, to get a seat at tables where I was often

the only woman.

It worked... until it didn’t.

Because dressing for validation is still just survival.

It’s image without embodiment. And it leaves even the most accomplished women wondering why they

still feel invisible.

That was me until I stopped performing and started claiming.

I got radically honest about who I was becoming and built a presence that matched her.

Not who the world said I should be but the woman I actually am.

That transformation changed my life. And now it changes my clients’.

Today, I work with high-achieving entrepreneurs, public figures, and industry leaders ready to command

presence at their next level.

They’re not just after polish, they want precision. Alignment. Influence.

And that’s what I deliver.

I've styled TEDx speakers, luxury founders, celebrities and award-winning CEOs.

My work has been featured in Forbes, Fox News, The Wall Street Times, and on red carpets and stages

where every detail matters.

When New York Fashion Week calls, I’m there not to watch, but to lead.

And when clients are preparing for national press, high-stakes keynotes, or brand reinventions, I’m the one

they trust to make sure they’re seen for who they truly are.

Because when your image is in full alignment with your identity, you don’t just look the part.

You become undeniable.

 

#141 Doing More Will Never Set you Free

The to-do list isn't the enemy. Your relationship with it is.

You know the pattern. Spin it in your brain. It feels like 500 things. But when  you write it down. It’s only five things. And even when you finish, there's no relief. Just more tasks. More pressure. More proof that you'll never catch up.

 

Genea shares a story about being trapped in a closet as a child at night. Literally tied up. Waiting for light under the door. And what she discovered about freedom in that moment changes everything about how you approach your overwhelm today.

 

Here's what opens up in this episode:

🔹 The invisible conflict that makes your to-do list feel endless

🔹 What actually happens when you access freedom first, then work

🔹 Why your nervous system keeps you in perpetual doing mode

🔹 The practice that breaks the overwhelm cycle for good

 

Doing more will never set you free. But this episode will show you what actually does. Listen or watch now.

 

Connect with Genea: 
Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#140 He had Everything He Wanted ... Except Peace with Ed Reay

What happens when you get the life everyone else wants and still feel empty?

Ed Reay moved to London to live with his girlfriend. He made more money than he ever had by multiples. Business class flights to Dubai. Five star hotels for weeks. Booking spontaneous trips to Amsterdam on New Year's Day just because he could. Industry leaders asking him to speak on their stages. Clients paying premium rates for his copywriting.

 

On paper, it was his best year ever. Internally, it was one of his worst. He kept chasing the next milestone, thinking that would finally make him feel successful. He joined masterminds to see what everyone else was doing so he could copy them. He was living outside of himself, trying to puppeteer his way through a life that looked perfect but felt hollow.

 

Genea and Ed go deep on:

🔹 The concept of "cliff top" and why achieving everything can feel worse than having nothing

 

🔹 How people pleasing and external validation became his identity

 

🔹 Why he couldn't access flow state no matter how much success he created

 

🔹 The moment he chose to lose and how that led to actually finding himself

 

Watch or listen now. This one will stay with you.

 

Connect with Genea: 
Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Ed Reay
Instagram: @ed.reay
Twitter: @reayed6
Free Gift Link : https://u6jw3fbc84r.typeform.com/to/MpZcXHkS

 

About Ed Reay

Ed Reay is a copywriter, business consultant, software founder, and coach who helps people identify where they’re stuck in business—and guide them through it.

He’s the founder of RuleBender.ai, an experimental AI-assisted ad technology to stop Facebook ad rejections in their tracks so advertisers can scale without interruption. He is the first person to solve the “Facebook ad ban black box.”

When he’s not optimizing his software, consulting with clients, or making Instagram videos, he’s breakdancing, practicing Japanese, and hosting events for his local community and inner circle of friends. His most notable event was hosting a 2000s Pop Music party.

Constantly evolving, Ed dives deep into esoteric knowledge and wisdom. Running through ancient tomes on spirituality, astrology, theology, and many ancient systems of thinking long forgotten today. He applies these learnings to his work with his clients, which is why he’s able to identify patterns and get businesses unstuck even after multiple failed attempts with other consultants.

#139 Why You Never Get What You Want (And Why It Falls Apart When You Do)

What if joy could last … without worrying that it’ll end?

You've done the work. You've built the business, shown up for the relationships, pushed yourself to grow.

But there's this feeling you can't shake.

Like something bad is waiting on the other side of success.

Like the moment you finally relax, it's all going to fall apart.

Genea calls this the upside-down pattern.

It's when your nervous system learned early on that stepping into what you want comes with consequences (and not the good kind). 

So now, even though you're working toward your goals, your subconscious is working just as hard to make sure you never actually get there. Or if you do, you lose it.

 

This episode unpacks:

🔹 The two-year-old moment that wired Genea's brain to expect punishment after joy

🔹 Why you might be using shame to complete the loop your body expects

🔹 The leadership training that forced her to choose her real desires over safety

🔹 What it actually takes to stop fearing the things that light you up

This isn't about working harder or wanting it more.

It's about unwinding the hidden fear that's been running the show since you were too young to understand what was happening.

#138 Double the Income, But feeling Half Alive with Jeff Glauser

Success isn't supposed to feel like this.

That's what Jeff Glauser kept thinking as he climbed the ladder, checked the boxes, and built the life that looked good from the outside. But inside? He was exhausted. Angry. Feeling like nothing he did was enough to “get him there.”.

From latchkey kid to sports journalist to film school to corporate burnout, Jeff's story is about the cost of chasing a definition of success that was never really his. It's also about what happens when you finally give yourself permission to rewrite it.

In this open and grounded conversation, you'll hear:

🔹 The pattern of being on the outskirts that followed him from childhood into every career move

🔹 Why making twice the money left him more miserable than he'd ever been

🔹 How imposter syndrome shows up when you're living someone else's version of your dream

🔹 What health, happiness, and peace feel like when you stop tying your worth to your income

This episode is for anyone who's ever wondered if they're doing it wrong because it doesn't feel right. Spoiler: you're not. You're just it right for someone else … not you. 

 

Connect with Genea: 

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Jeff:

Website: https://brandscribed.com/ 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffglauser/

 

About Jeff: 

Jeff Glauser is a seasoned storytelling strategist who helps established professionals — from authors and former athletes to corporate leaders — surface and share their most powerful comeback narratives. Whether it's coaching them on brand messaging, serving as a ghostwriter, or brokering their content to get it placed on the most appropriate platforms, Jeff is passionate about bringing powerful, legacy-leaving stories to life

 

 

#137 Why You Keep Changing Everything, But Nothing Actually Changes

Most people spend their whole lives changing everything except the thing that actually matters.

They switch environments. Learn new skills. Even shift their beliefs.

But the deeper patterns stay untouched.

Genea maps out the six levels of change and shows you exactly where transformation breaks down and where it finally takes root.

Here's what unfolds:

🔹 The neurological anchors that keep pulling you back to old patterns even in new places

🔹 The hidden beliefs running your life that were locked in before age 10

🔹 How your being "nice" or "strong" might be a survival strategy blocking the ease and joy you're working so hard to create

🔹 The one shift that ripples down into every other area of your life and helped Genea lose 45 pounds without obsessing or grinding

This episode is for you if you've done the work but you're still not feeling the freedom.

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#136 Trust the Spark Before You Have the Plan with CEO, Melissa Perlman

You don't need to know how. You just need to say yes.

Melissa Perlman didn't have construction experience, speak Spanish, or a detailed business plan when she moved to Tulum after 9/11.

She had a spark.

A vision.

And the courage to follow breadcrumbs instead of blueprints.

That spark became Amansala, one of Tulum's most iconic wellness destinations.

Genea and Melissa dive into:

🔹 The moment she negotiated her first hotel on a napkin with a man who couldn't write his own name

🔹 Why she chose to move forward after being forcibly removed from the property she'd rebuilt

🔹 How following the frequency of joy reveals opportunities that control never could

🔹 The practice of trusting small decisions so you can trust the big ones

In this conversation, Genea and Melissa explore what it means to build from joy, experience some big losses, but keep trusting yourself anyway.

 

Connect with Genea:

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

Connect with Melissa:

Website: https://www.amansala.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-glee-perlman/

 

About Melissa:

Melissa Perlman is the founder of Amansala, one of Tulum’s most iconic boutique hotels and wellness retreat destinations. A pioneer in experiential travel, she created Bikini Bootcamp, a signature program that has attracted celebrities, CEOs, and wellness seekers from around the world—and helped put Tulum on the global wellness map.

What began as a simple concept—a few beachside rooms and a vision for transformation—grew into a multimillion-dollar hospitality brand rooted in authenticity, community, and conscious living.

Melissa built her business from the ground up, navigating real estate challenges, local politics, legal battles, and the unique complexities of building in Mexico—all while staying true to her mission of creating spaces that inspire personal growth and connection. After being pushed out of her original location—a property she developed by hand—Melissa had to decide whether to walk away or rebuild. She chose to stay, and that decision became the turning point. She not only rebuilt Amansala stronger, but expanded its offerings, refined the brand, and emerged as a thought leader in the boutique wellness space.

Melissa brings a raw and honest perspective to entrepreneurship—sharing how to overcome setbacks, stay financially independent, build a loyal team, and scale without selling out. Today, Amansala continues to thrive under her leadership, with plans to expand globally.

#135 Why Being Selfish is the Most Generous Thing You Can Do

You've been taught that being selfish is bad. That putting others first is virtuous.

That sacrifice is the path to love, respect, and success.

But here's the truth: that mindset is killing your business, your relationships, and your joy.

In this bold episode, Genea dismantles the "service to others" trap and reveals why putting yourself first is the most generous thing you can do.

In this episode, you'll hear:

🔹 The painful conditioning that turned you into a slave to everyone else's expectations
🔹 Why the "employee mindset" keeps you from building the business (and life) you actually want
🔹 The real reason shame and anxiety show up when you try to step into who you are
🔹 How choosing yourself first creates overflow—the kind that actually gives back to the world

If you've ever felt exhausted from being "the strong one," this episode will help you see why breaking free from that pattern is the foundation of everything you want.

Listen now and start reclaiming your autonomy.

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

#134 From Smart to Human: Speak So People Actually Listen with Message Design Consultant, Brian Miller

Being smart isn't the problem. 

You can be brilliant and still invisible.

What may be super clear to you doesn’t always resonate to others.

 And as a result, people don’t remember or care about what you have to say.

Genea talks with Brian Miller, a message design expert who teaches people how to explain big ideas in ways that actually stick. Brian works with scientists, researchers, and industry leaders, but the lessons here? They're for anyone who needs people to understand them.

Entrepreneurs. Leaders. Creatives. Coaches. Experts. And even Parents.  

If you've got something to say and people aren't getting it, this episode is for you.

This conversation gets real about communication:

🔹 Why people don't ask questions when they're lost (and how you're losing them in silence)
🔹 The survival bias that tricks you into thinking you're landing the conversation when you're not
🔹 How saying yes to uncomfortable opportunities creates unexpected transformation
🔹 The one shift that makes your message spread: Audience First, Always

This matters because communication is a major cornerstone to getting what you want out of life and business. Your business only grows when others can talk about what you do. If they don't understand you, they can't share you. And if they can't share you, your message dies with them.

Listen and learn how to make your words move people.

 

Connect with Brian:

Website https://clarityupconsulting.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brianmillerspeaks/

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/brianmillerspeaks

Get Access to Brian's Book: https://keynotedesignbook.com

About Brian:

Brian Miller is a former magician turned international keynote speaker on human connection, whose TEDx talk has been viewed 3.6 million times. Today, he’s the founder of Clarity Up, a boutique messaging firm that teaches experts how to explain their big ideas to the rest of us. His team has served hundreds of clients across five continents and 20+ industries, with 34 TEDx talks earning a combined 13 million views and 4 Editor’s Picks. Brian is the 2025 Cicero Speechwriting Award recipient for Social Justice. He believes everything can be said clearly—and he’s on a mission to restore humanity’s faith in experts.

 

Connect with Genea:

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#133 Your Decision-Making Mechanism Is Why Your Life (And Business) Still Feels Like a Six

On the surface, life and business look good. You're checking all the boxes. But something still feels off.

In this episode, Genea reveals why most entrepreneurs feel like they're living a "level 6 (ir lower) life" even when they've achieved success on paper. 

The issue isn't your strategy, your work ethic, or your talent. 

It's your decision-making mechanism … the invisible autopilot system that's been running your life since childhood.

Genea walks you through:

🔹 The uncomfortable truth about why your life recreates the same emotional patterns from childhood … and how that's keeping your business at a ceiling

🔹 What happens when you make decisions from obligation instead of alignment … and why that creates more frustration and headaches

🔹 The mindset trap that makes you fail even when you have the BEST coaches, mentors, and strategies

🔹 How to know if you're ready to actually change (hint: you'll feel something, and it won't be comfortable)

If you've been working hard, following the rules, and still feeling like something's missing, this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface.

Listen now to discover how to shift from autopilot to intentional decision-making … and finally create the level 10 life you've been chasing.

 

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#132 Money Bulimia: Your Revenue is Growing, but You're Losing Profits with Kimberly Spencer

You can grow revenue and still go broke.

In this episode, Genea sits down with Kimberly Spencer to unpack a pattern most entrepreneurs don't see coming: money bulimia. 

It's the cycle of bringing in more revenue while watching profits vanish, expenses pile up, and cash flow disappear. 

Kimberly knows this pattern intimately because she lived it first with food, then with relationships, and finally with business. 

She traced it back to childhood chaos, the need to control what felt uncontrollable, and a deep-seated belief that she didn't deserve to keep what she earned.

This conversation goes beneath strategy and into the subconscious drivers that keep capable entrepreneurs repeating the same financial patterns over and over.

You'll hear:

🔹 Why childhood patterns dictate how you handle money in business

🔹 How bulimia became the blueprint for business self-sabotage

🔹 How Kimberly went from $115 in annual revenue to scaling multiple six figures by addressing the real problem

🔹 What happens when you finally trust yourself instead of repeating what looks good on paper

If your business feels like a cycle of progress and loss, this episode will help you see the pattern you've been repeating and what it takes to break it.

 

Connect with Kimberly:

Website: https://www.crownyourself.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/crownyourselfnow

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberly.spencer 

 

 

About Kimberly: 

Kimberly Spencer is an award-winning high-performance, trauma-informed coach, TEDx speaker, the founder of Crown Yourself® and CEO of Communication Queens, and #1 bestselling author of “Make Every Podcast Want You: How to Become So Radically Interesting You’ll Barely Keep from Interviewing Yourself" which was named one of the "Top Books of 2024 to Change Your Life" by Foureva Media in NYC's Times Square.

From her entrepreneurial beginnings on the streets of suburbia selling bags of glitter water at five to her neighbors to becoming an award-winning screenwriter, certified Pilates instructor, Miss Congeniality, and having a successful exit as president of a national e-commerce company, Kimberly is proof that it's better to make your own mold than to conform to someone else's.

With 2X  award-nominated top podcasts for her businesses, Crown Yourself® and Communication Queen, Kimberly is elevating the conversation for visionary leaders to get their voices heard, leveraging strategy + spirituality.

A warrior for humankind's infinite possibility and an unsinkable optimist, this mom of three is on a quest to revolutionize mindsets from fear to faith so that you can stand in your power. 

Her work has been featured on Netflix, The CW, ESPN, Chicken Soup for the Soul, NPR, Thrive Global, CNBC, and Forbes.

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

#131 Trauma Is Not Your Truth: Reclaiming Freedom in Life + Business

Most people live a life defined by trauma … without even knowing it. 

In this episode, Genea dismantles the misconceptions around trauma. 

She reveals why most people stay trapped in cycles that prevent them from ever getting what they want. 

She exposes how unprocessed emotions from overwhelming events create false stories about who we are. 

And how these stories end up running our businesses, relationships, and entire lives.

Genea gets raw about trauma. And gives you a clear path to not letting it be the excuse as to why your life is not the way you want it to be.  

She breaks down what happens to your nervous system when you experience traumatic events. And how it keeps you focused on what you don't want instead of what you want to create.

This conversation dives deep into:

🔹 The moment your nervous system decided you couldn't handle something and why it's still protecting you from it

 🔹 The difference between trauma emotions and the shame stories we build around them

🔹 Why talking about trauma without identifying and processing the root emotions just reinforces the prison 

🔹 The three-stage journey from emotional overwhelm to complete neutrality and freedom

If you've ever felt like your past is secretly running your present, this episode will help you reclaim the freedom to be who you actually are.

 

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#130 The Dark Side of Rapid Success and How to Avoid It with Nik Agharkar

Most entrepreneurs dream of the windfall moment when everything takes off. 

Nik Agharkar lived it and discovered why it's not always a dream come true.

His innovative approach to client acquisition exploded his law practice from nothing to $5M in nine months. 

But success without structure became his nightmare. 

The very growth he'd fought for forced him to sell his practice and become an employee again. 

Now, Nik's playing an entirely different game. 

In this honest conversation with Genea, he shares what he's learned about sustainable growth versus unsustainable speed.

 

The insights that emerged from this conversation:

🔹 The anger and hubris that fueled his first business leap and nearly destroyed it

🔹 Why the dopamine hit of constant growth becomes an addiction that blinds you to problems

🔹 The mindset shift from "I'll show them" to "what do I actually want?" 

🔹 How building slowly with intention creates more sustainable freedom than racing to scale

Listen, if you've ever wondered whether there's a way to grow that doesn't require sacrificing everything else you care about.

 

Connect with Nik:

email: nik at crownepointtax.com

Website: https://www.crownepointtax.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crownepoint_tax/ 

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nikagharkar/

 

Connect with Genea:  

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

About Nik: 

Nikhil (Nik) Agharkar, Esq. is a seasoned counselor with nearly two decades of experience guiding individuals, families, and business owners through the complexities of wealth preservation, tax strategy, and legacy planning. 

A graduate of Carnegie Mellon University with dual degrees in Economics and Public Policy, Nik combines analytical precision with a deep understanding of law, finance, and public systems to deliver tailored, impactful solutions. 

Nik is especially known for his ability to uncover powerful, often-overlooked provisions in the tax code to develop creative, compliant strategies that reduce tax burdens and support long-term financial security, particularly when paired with asset protection vehicles. He is an expert in law, economics, finance, and public policy.

#129 Stop Hiding: The Truth About Who You Really Are

Most successful people are living someone else's version of their life without even realizing it.

You know exactly who you're supposed to be in every situation.

You've learned to tone down your excitement, dim your personality, and hide the parts that might make others uncomfortable.

The problem?

You've gotten so good at being what everyone needs that you've completely lost touch with what lights you up.

Genea dives deep into why high-achievers often feel empty despite external success and how the "hologram self" we create for safety actually blocks us from experiencing genuine fulfillment in business and life.

🔹 Why authenticity has been scientifically measured as 400 times more powerful than love 

🔹 The cost of protecting everyone else from your real personality and desires 

🔹 How your authentic frequency attracts what brings you joy, freedom, love, and peace automatically 

🔹 The life and world shift that happens when you finally show up as yourself

This episode is for entrepreneurs who are tired of accommodating everyone else and ready to claim a life and business that actually gives them the joy, satisfaction, and freedom they deserve.

 

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

#128 The Power of the Pause: How Slowing Down Speeds Everything Up with Arthur Barnes

Connect with Arthur:

Connect to Arthur:

Email: arbarnesbiz@gmail.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/arthur.r.barnes/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coacharthursupermanbarnes/

 

Connect with Genea: 

[free guide] Grow Your Business and Love Doing it with the 3 secrets the business gurus NEVER talk about: http://bethewolfgift.com/

Website: http://bethewolfnow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geneabarnes/

 

About Arthur:

Arthur R. Barnes is a Certified Mindset Coach, Neuroscience Practitioner, and High-Flow Performance Strategist with over 32 years in ministry and pastoral leadership.

A 7-figure business builder, Arthur helps faith-driven entrepreneurs, real estate professionals, and executive leaders align their mindset, mission, and momentum—without burnout.

His signature belief? “There’s always another level.”

Through soul-rooted strategy and system-driven coaching, Arthur empowers you to grow a business that feels like you—bold, purpose-filled, and wildly impactful.💡

Arthur Helps You:

✔ Shift your beliefs to match your next level

✔ Build a legacy-aligned business without burnout

✔ Grow a powerful, paid, and purpose-driven network

✔ Create clarity, confidence, and consistent action

✔ Align your identity with your income, impact, and influence

 

🚀 Ready for Your Next Level? Let’s Build It Together. If your spirit’s been stirred and you know you’re called to more—clarity, income, impact—it’s time for a conversation that changes the game.

🎯 This isn’t a sales pitch. It’s a sacred space to map out your next level—with a coach who honors both your ambition and your anointing.

📅 Schedule your 1-on-1 discovery call now https://calendar.app.google/SMmA7BSoKtKJSQrv6

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